A couple of days back, I got a message from a person wanting to come on a trip. He said that he had been following the page for almost two years, and had asked for a lot of trip itineraries. And now finally was going to book a trip, because he had the money and the dates in order.
But he had some doubts. He asked me if the people coming on these trips would be solo or with friends. A reasonable question that I answered by telling him that it’s always a mixed crowd, fifty percent coming solo and the rest with a friend or two.
Then he wondered if he would be able to gel with anyone. That he was an introvert. In his words, he called himself unattractive and ugly looking. And that he didn’t think people would want to get to know him It disturbed me to see someone talk about themselves like that.
We have had a lot of people coming on trips. And in my assessment, the only people that others don’t like knowing or speaking to, is someone who is always cribbing, or is crass and uncouth, or someone who is fussy about everything or want things only according to themselves. Mind you, we rarely get such people. But those are the kind of people nobody wants to really be close to.
Every trip has quiet people as well as talkative people. There are introverts on every trip. And that’s the way it should be. There should be different personalities on the trip. If everyone was an extrovert and talkative, the whole trip would be too loud and chaotic. Also who would listen, heh 😉 In my experience, it is on such trips that if you can make a reserved person feel comfortable, then they open up about themselves and their lives. I have seen hundreds of quiet people open up on trips, once they felt a certain comfort. And the innocence with which they speak, or the happiness they feel when they are heard out, the emotions some people feel when they feel accepted and loved, is something I cherish a lot, and makes the journey of being a trip leader that much more meaningful. It is these people who get a lot more out of the trip than just the location and the beautiful surroundings.
It does not matter how someone looks or how many jokes they crack. If someone has their heart in the right place, if someone feels happy with small things, if someone isn’t fussy and is willing to help out others or be graceful, they will always be beautiful and loved, in the overall scheme of things.
Do come, my friend, a good holiday awaits you.